kindness and concern

How should kindness & concern be given? wat are they? how often should they be given?

wat constitutes kindness and concern?
is it the gift of $$? the care and concen shown?

how often should they be given?
constantly? or once in a while?

I think men are by large ungrateful, many a time we take things for just for granted... in the case of kindness and concern, we dun really stand up and take notice of the kindness and good that are always around us, instead when someone shows some once in a while, we will stand up and and take notice of it...
just like the air and water around us, we always expect them to be there, to be clean day in day out... readily available, we never stop for a while to value their existence... not even a single moment

search ourselves, how often do we stop to see what others are doing? very often, a little to u may mean big to them, to lift a burden off someone, means to put the load upon themselves... so is this a show of affection?

so which is a better way to show such affections? perharps it's appropriate to treat someone cold all the while, then once in a while, treat them better perhaps there's a better "contrast" this way and it would be more noticeable...

constantly showing it, people would tend to take it as "natural" just like the sun should rise and set everyday ... nothing special already... tat affection just become "worthless" though in fact, it's much more valueable than anything...just because we treat it as natural, we dun feel anything abt it...

mabbe we should all do it this way, treat someone so-so for majority of the time, then once in a while treat them better perharps it would make u feel more important to that person...don't u think?