Marriage Meaning - Sunboi's perception

Well in laymen terms the meaning of marriage is that 2 person want to be together for the rest of their life, to take care and look after one another. To me marriage should be built on mutal trust, understanding and mutual encouragement for each other. A strictly no-no is threats, threats will severly hard the marriage relationship. Saying things like "if u don't do this, then u will not get this", or "if you don't do according to my wishes, then u will get this from me" these are all examples of threats... sounds good?

In the modern society, marriage involves the 2 parties as well as their parents afterall when the 2 parties get married, their family will become related by law..(that's why called in-laws). Thus we get a lot of strange ideas from parents when their child are getting married. Go against their wishes, u will be branded "unfillial", love wife, don't love parents liao and vice-versa. The children is usually sandwiched between the wishes of their sprouse and their parents. In this case, mutual understanding of each other comes in. We must know that many a times, we do many things not in accordance with our wishes, we have to consider other people views and many other factors, somethings cannot say wan to do then can do... It requires intensive planning and commitment towards the "destination".

Just think, when a guy just started working and he tells his parents or his gf's parents that he wants to get married..what will the parents think? Putting on the shoes of the parents, will they think this way? "Wah haven't got career wan to marry, where got the $$? Desperate izzit?
or "Good marry good, faster marry not enough $$, get from us". Generally which response will the majority of parents give?

If in this situation, sprouses(future) dunno how to encourage and understand each other's predicatment then how can these 2 live together? How can they handle the future life challenges together? Before marriage is He and She but after marriage is We... They definitely need the support from each other...Only together can they advance and overcome all problems.

If no $$ to...

buy BMW then buy Kia/Perodua lah
buy big house then live in HDB and smaller house lah
go big resturant eat then eat at hawker center lah
go far and exotic places for holiday then settle for somewhere near lor
wear designer clothes then wear cheaper brands lor
open 20 tables to invite people to wedding then just order less lah those unimportant one heck care (all cos of the "face" problem)



A temporary setback is not the end of the world, as long as we are willing to work hard there will always be a way out.