Extract from Mypaper 25/2/2008

Tips to survive the 1st 365 days of Marriage

Choosing to be happy together is better than the decision to be right.
Choosing to love in the face of conflict (not always an easy task, but it's worth it) helps
couples remember that what they want is a workable relationship , and no relationship can work if one partner insists on being right given his/her point of views. Give up being right, and see what opens up.

Remember that commitment between 2 people does not mean that each side puts in 50% effort, True commitment takes 100% effort from both parties in order to have a successful and workable marriage.

Have a sense of humor for everyday issues. It allows for creative solutions to otherwise challenging situations. Learning how to laugh at yourself and taking things less seriously can diffuse a situation

Manage expectations. Many couples assume that when 2 becomes 1, their loads are lightened. A wife may feel that as the husband is the main breadwinner, she can use the money she earns for shopping. Or, a husband may assume the wife will take care of all the housework. Set up agreements, early in the marriage, on financial matters, housework, spending time together and when to visit in-laws, as to avoid unplesant and unexpected blowups when one party's expectations are not met.

Remember that love is not based on feelings - he feeling for being happy, for example can come and go. Likewise with love. Love is based on commitments you have made with your partner, the promises you have made and the life you are dedicated to living with your partner. Keep in mind, and other issues will take a backseat.


The last statement i find it particularly true, Hope this helps u readers out there...