Long long time

wah looking at my last post, then i realise that i've not posted anything here for almost a month liao... haiz been busy lately ... with reno stuffs... then weekdays move between JW and Teck Whye ... dunno why when i am inside new housie, i dun feel like going out and gg back to my old home.. mabbe should sleep there sometimes...

Renos is 99.9% done but still haben paid our contractor Patrick yet... cos dd just change her job, so need the $$ first... so i transferred to her acct lor (hope she dun spent it all, then no $$ to pay Patrick liao)

Then we also went to look for Master Ong to pick a auspicious date for our AD... but then some probs crop up.. My dad not happy, her mum also not happy... 2 major obstacles...
My dad not happy cos:-
1) he feels i just started working, must have some savings cannot spend all on AD
2) never inform him beforehand nor seek his approval (he's a MCP)
3) He dosen't wan a banquet( but dd's parents wans, so he feels why are we giving in?)

dd's mum not happy that i dunno why liao lor.. ask dd to go find out more info, like how much dowry her mum wans, how many tbls she wan.. till now also no news.. no updates...

i think if this continues to drag on and ding dong here ding dong there... even by 2009 we wun be married yet. not to say 2008... haiz...hope to get this things quickly done and over with.
Can't imagine someone who is not footing the bill and yet still got $$ to earn got so many comments and requests.

then dd said something to me that i makes me very sad... she said she wanted to start everything all over again, she dun want to marry me.. why? she said very troublesome marry still need to treat ppl eat and still so many stuffs to do, to pay... i was like "WAT!!!!??" when i heard this, troublesome? also all frm her side, my parents already compromise alot already. . wat more she wan huh? now i feel my parents are better than hers (though last time i feel they dun care abt me) but at least they dun hav so much mood swings and are easier to handle...

now dd turns... i told her many times, we gotta work together to make things work out... if got a little prob then want to avoid and hide then we will never have things done...

now i am also afraid she may not be used to married life, cos she's been living a pampered life, everything is provided for and done for her ( by her parents) the aftermath.. she becomes LAZY... why i say that:
1) she dun help to clean up when we are in the housie, only sometimes ...
still got many housework we need to do lor.. when we live alone.. i'm prepared to share the
work-load, though i see many instances whereby the wife do most of it..

2) she thinks it's far to walk from JP to our housie, and from housie to the sports complex... i've
been walking and hanging around these few places since our renos started lor... there are
many ppl who are also doing the same thing ...they also never complain, even i also never
complain...Quote from her: "if others can do it why can't she?"

3) New workplace at AMK, and she still drives to work... this i feel is like eh waste of $$ lor cos
the truth is she is not rich, furthermore now is the crunch time, we need every cent we can
save..., her reason, cos she can save 40mins of travelling time so it's justifiable to pay for the
comfort... i dun blame her for this if she can keep her travelling $$ within $150 (dunno need
$$ for parking at her new workplace) but i feel it's not worthwhile lor... to me i rather leave
home earlier. I have many colleagues also live far faraway, but they also never need to drive
to work, even my own brother who used to work in tampines. if she wans to convert her red
plate to black plate all the more she need to save the $$ lor.. then can redeem her car lic plate
earlier.. dunno why she dun see this pt but keep saying want to convert to black plate.

I think to be able to live together and enjoy the latter part of ours lifes, we need to make some changes lor. Some sacrifice now is inevitable, we will only enjoy the fruit later. Laze around now and nothing will be done. We also need to cast our view further ahead and not just look and dispair at present situation.

Sighz very sianz... feel like spending $$ again... housie still got many things haben buy... all the fees (including banquet) are a heavy burden on my shoulders... really hope dd can share some of the load but looking at the situation now i think quite unlikely lor... demoralised....