Super Sianz Ahhhhhhhhh!

Just finished my attachment, so sianz at home nothing to do...Sighz can't find a suitable temp job also...so wat to do? gotta stay at home and rot lor...haha
nothing to do so decided to write(or type) lor...

Ah dd's family having problems financially again... common occurance boo hoo hoo. heard from dd that her mum have to go prawn jewlleries to buy clothes(~$200) for her bro and a $500 cupboard to keep his medals and game consoles.
I dunno why but i find them to be a strange family, they always seems to like the idea of spend-first-plan-later while i believe in doing things in the inverse way that is plan-first-spend-later. It seems that their parents like to buy those expensive stuffs even though sometimes they will be penniless after that. Why? I just dun understand...from wat dd say her dad wants to protect her and her bro so that ppl will not look down on them. So mabbe her dad(& mum) thinks that by having all the ex stuffs , it will show that they have a certain standard of living and ppl will not look down on them... Wat's the point? They are not that poor neither are they that rich... why must they keep buying stuffs that are not that important? I heard a salesman tell me this and I think it's very meaningful... "In Singapore you wun die, if you can only are poor than u live a poorer lifestyle lor, if you are rich then u live a richer lifestyle" which is very true. if you are poor what for u try to live a rich lifestyle? if ppl wan to look down on u then let them lor, wat's more impt? face or filling ur stomach? buying expensive stuffs can't fill ur stomach when u are hungry rite? Dunno y they can't see that...I think I may be wrong to critise her family like that but I think sometimes frm my observation over the years that her parents (esp her mum) are still quite naive... backdated thinking
and her bro too - should know that they have some problems financially, so should try to help by spending less and not spend more... so wat if he signs on? if he earns more then he will spend more...

dd's parents always ask her for $$, and never from her bro. dunno wat kind of thinking is that... mabbe they think that daughter will get married then will b other ppl's daughter already so must use the chance to squeeze every cent from her... and poor dd always have to give in to them cos she's very soft-hearted (to them only) even though she can scream and shout at every other person (including me). so all her $$ will be channeled there.

I used to have a wishful thinking that the big sum of $$ needed for our marriage can be saved by the both of us.. but I guess such a tot is pretty far-fetch now. If she keeps giving them $ then she can't save. If she dun give she will be the "unfillial child". Anyway I've quarrelled many times with her over these so much so until I am so sick and tired of these. She have to choose which side to "scarifice". Either our marriage plans or her parents guess it's quite a tough decision. But guess her parents is more important than anything else... Frankly speaking, I really wish she could contribute some amount to the marriage funds bcos the sums involved is really quite large...

So wat can I do? just have to keep trying to save as much as possible lor...else how? dunno how long that's gg to take...Lucky thing is that my parents(at least for now) are not like hers else really die ..think we will not be able to get married tis lifetime liao..

Anyway I think keep giving her parents $$ whenever they wan is also not a solution...
Must try to work frm the bro and her parents...ask them to change, make her bro realise the situation they are facing... and her parents to realise wat they are doing is so senseless...

If they had planned for everything years earlier and started saving then perharps now her bro dun even need to sign on to get the $$ for his Uni fees... No Big TV, no DVD player, NO PS2, no Home theatre speakers, No camcorder, No $1000 handphone... somemore they bought it when the product was just launched, imagine the price they paid then and the price now... haha all bcos of some "face" issue...
Anyway ppl will noe that her bro signed on bcos of the $$ (even though some ppl signed on bcos they LOVED SAF, but who believes?), and wat does that means? most ppl will think that it's cos his family not $$ to send him to U... so see the pt? ex or no ex gadgets, we have come one full circle and still "lose face"....