Found this quite interesting comparison between "Proactive" and "Reactive" people
Definition 1st
Proactive - Responsible for our own lifes, Behaviour is function of our decisions, not conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values and have the initiative and responsibility to make things happen. These ppl recognised that they have responsiblility (Response ability, the ability to choose their response). They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning for their behaviour. Their behaviour is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feelings.
Reactive - The opposite of Proactive, they are affected by their physical environment. eg. if the weather is good, they feel good. if it isn't it affects their attitude and their performance. Proactive ppl can carry their 'weather' with them, whether it rains or shines makes no difference to them. Reactive ppl are affected by their social environment as well by the "social weather". If ppl treat them well, they feel well, if they don't they became defensive and protective. Reactive ppl build their emotional lives around the behaviour of others, empowering the weakness of others to control the. Reactive ppl are driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by the environment. Proactive ppl are driven by values.
| Reactive languages | Proactive language |
| There's nothing i can do | Let's look at our alternatives |
| That's just the way i am | I can choose a different approach |
| He makes me so mad | I control my own feelings |
| They won't allow that | I can create an effective presentation |
| I have to do that | I will choose an appropriate response |
| I can't | I choose |
| I must | I prefer |
| If only | I will |
Which type of person Mr Covey (author) thinks is the more effective person?
so are u a proactive or reactive person?
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