Panicky

Sighz rather panicky these few weeks. All because of DD's parents discovering that she now owns a car. Worried about wat? Well

1)Worried that she don't have the discipline to save for the car insurance, road tax ...then until the nearing the year end then she start to panick and save like mad.

2)Worried that her parents would ask her to buy these buy that for her "new" car until she has not enough $ to spend for the month.

3)Worried that her parents or bro would ask her to "lend" her car to her bro for some "driving lessons" around the carpark.

4)Worried that she will lend her car to her frens/relatives watever then they will buang(involved in accident). (And of cos won't pay for repairs) or she herself get involved in those accidents(non fatal) then she wun have $ to send in the car for repairs because of 1,2.

5)Worried that she would wan to "Show Off" then take her frens/relatives watever on joyrides to far places which will waste alot of petrol causing her to exceed her monthly budget.

6)Worried that because of 1,2,4 and 5 she will used up the $ meant for marriage.

This is why last week, I've sort of lost control of my emotions when she went to some re-spraying(which i feel is not needed). I dunno if she did sense that I really dun wan her to go, or that she nv did considered my feelings at all. I do realise that she would want to restore all minor defects to her new baby but to me I look at the bigger picture, think that it's better to let it be for the moment. Sometimes I think our roles are swapped, I am the more sensitive female and she is the male. Anyway these matter is over liao...so no pt talking abt it anymore.

Aiyah I also dunno why I became so paranoid, after all it isn't my car. Perharps I am also a bit attached to it as I went with her to every stage from the booking of the car to the collection of the car.
I kept saying that the $ for marriage I will save myself, but perharps I dun really meant what i said. I do hope that she can contribute some amount, but wif her parent's constant "gold panning" and her reluctant to refuse them I know it's gonna to be hard.However in my heart I do wish that she could at least try. I don't wan myself to be debt-ridden just because of marriage. With the job market so insecure, it's even more un-advisable to chalk up so much debts.

Planning to learn driving, but can't seem to find a suitable drving instructor, sianz cheap and preferably some1 acquainted, worried that i may get cheated by some stranger(after all planning to take from private instructor) lah haha. Those who collect fees from you then "disappear"

Let It Be...

SighZzz dd says she hated me now...
Perharps I did something wrong in agreeing on sat nite to let her send into the workshop but in fact I was silently hoping that she could back off at the last minute.
I keep telling myself to let it go, forget it...and I almost did..
then when the whole thing took so long until we can't even meet yesterday I became very angry again, Somemore when dd called to informed me that the whole thing could take quite a while, she sounded happy, like she thinks tat the $ was well-spent and it should b spent...All along to me it's a total waste...
the more I think abt it the siller I feel abt the whole thing then I could turn to no one but to write them all down...
I always think that we could sort things out but she got angry after reading what I wrote in the heat of the moment...now she dun even wan to talk to me...Fine
Let me be my fault, all my fault... I shouldn't have been too meddlesome, shouldn't have expect so much frm her, should have let her do everything her way, shouldn't have talk so much or provided her advices/solutions in the hope that she will follow them...(she never did anyway, facing me she has a mind of her own, facing others she will be manipulated by them)

Ya u can say I am calculating becos I keep reminding her abt $, but wat can I do? u wan me to stand and watch she sink deeper into the mire? or wait until everything's too late then start to voice out. I wan her to have a budget so that she will have enough to spend every month and possibly even some spare cash... No need to dig into her savings at all..U imagine this, if every month u have to dig into ur savings cos u are over budget then very soon even this little savings will run out. I dun wan her to develop this happen of keep touching her savings only use for emergencies...Is that wrong? Is that calculatives? why can't she see the hidden agenda?

She said she does have marriage on her minds..ya like keep saying that she wans this and tats for marriage. So this is her way of saying she have marriage on her mind right? As I mentioned earlier, mabbe I was wrong to expect too much frm her or expect her to put in the same effort as me..but in order to let her b a happy n beautiful bride I am constantly cracking my head on how to save more $, scimping and pinching everyday, then sudddenly u saw this "extravagant" thing happen, who won't be upset? At that instance I really feel that all my efforts are wasted u noe? Why can't she view it this way?

In my views, I dun think pacifying will get anyway, after all she've been pacifying her(her mum) and giving in all these years already but then wat happened? the same thing happen over and over again. So I feel perharps a hard approach would be better. Men are like tis u give them an in they wan a yard... when u r firm and they noe that they cannot gain any advantage then they will back off... After all they are mum n daughter so can't possibly carry on like tis 4ever...TO me she's please cos she has got her way and to put it crudely is "gloating" I dun understand why she's so happy over this...

She always say I dun understand her but have she taken some time to care about how I felt anot? HAve she ever taken time to note that throughout all these while she have never really listen and carry out any of my words, SHe will always listen to everyone except me. Wat other people told her is advice wat I told her is all crap.
I am sorry if I am too direct, I never chew my words...I was not born to please but to solve problems in the most correct way.

Who says I dun understand her? it's precisely this that I am so worried for her.
-I noe her mum is like that so I must ask her to stand up for herself keep giving in is definitely not a solution
-I noe she don't save that's why I ask her don't if possible touch her savings unless it's for emergencies, tis case is a non emergency and she went to touch of cos I am worried for her...
-I noe she will get angry(but didn't expect her to be so upset) but some1 will have to be the bad guy right?to constantly remind her else sooner or later everything will return to sq 1.

Anyway I've decided to give up, If she wants to carry on like this Let it be...I wash my hands off everything then perharps she will be happier and wun be sandwiched between her mum n me... I'll continue to play 2nd fiddle, shut my mouth up and just save $ quietly myself.Perharps this is the most ideal solution to her.After all in her eyes, I am nothing but a calculative, unreasonable, hard feeling , ignorant idiot who does not noe anything but scolding people....

My intentions not being appreciated is 1 thing, but being misunderstood is another...and it's really saddening

DD's angry

Now dd is angry wif me..saying that I am not supportive of her and keep scolding her...Nv understand her predicament etc...
Truth is in fact I did ok...I noe her mum is like that but the best way to keep her from doing all these stupid things is not to give in to her let them noe that u are firm then they will noe u can't b pushed...
I just dun understand why she can't see the whole picture, the bigger picture...I am not trying cause a rift in her family but if she keeps giving in like that then there will be no end to trouble only when the other party noes u can't be pushed around then the whole thing will stop.
I dun understand why she cannot realise that everything is for her own good... Not that I feel totally right, in fact I do agree that mabbe my tone was slightly harsh but it's all due to the fact tat I am concern for her...afterall the blog was written when I am terribly upset due also to the fact tat cos of the stupid car thing I didn't managed to meet her today and waited like an idiot the whole day.
I think the best way to help her is to help and advice her to make the correct decision, not to just blindly support her in everything she does.If that's the case then i would be nothing more than a pet.
I dun understand why I must also b the lamb that's sacrifice, everytime she will take the side of her mum/relatives but never on my side, u called that same freq?
If she wans to be angry I also can't do anything.
SighZzz...

Expectations of a SG guy

SighZzzz I think it's very hard to be a SG guy because of the many expectations that is expected on u...that u are suppose to have..

If Guy can't get into Uni, then he's useless,
but if he gets into Uni and then can't work which equals to no $$ then he still useless

If Guy thinks he's not cut out to be some boss or big shot then he's not ambitious and thus useless..
If all he wants is to be happy and live out the rest of his life then his thinking is wrong(not ambitious enuff) and he's still useless


Ask yourself how many people can be no. 1s? surely there must be thousands who are not no. 1 right? How many CEOs can there be? how many Presidents can there be?

All those who aren't able to reach the top or doesn't think abt reaching the top are all stereotyped as being useless or "mei chu xi". Think that's a bit unfair to the majority of the SG population. Cos I think the numbers of non CEOs far exceeds the num of CEOs. The num of non Uni grads still exceeds the num of Uni grads. Try telling the majority that they are useless... Ha Ha
Many gals(obviously or rather their mums) wan to marry rich and famous guys. How many are there? Most probably they will end up marrying the same guy and they will be kept in the dark...
Is this wat they wan?